Mix signals are when someone sends you a confusing message. This can be a form of miscommunication, especially in new relationships.
They might text you a lot and talk about your future together, but then suddenly radio silence. They might even ghost you or ignore you for a while, couples’ therapist Alicia Munoz tells mbg.
1. He Flirts With You
Guys often give mixed signals because they don’t know what they want. They can be unsure whether they’re dating you or not, or whether they should take things further. But this doesn’t mean that they’re intentionally sending you confusing messages.
Sometimes, a guy can send you mixed signals because they like you very much but don’t know how to show it. For example, if he compliments your outfit or acts flirty around you, but then disappears and doesn’t answer your text, he could be trying to figure out how to approach the subject of dating or his feelings for you.
Another reason he might be sending you mixed signals is that he’s afraid of vulnerability. This is a common problem for men because they weren’t taught how to be vulnerable in the same way that women were. But this doesn’t mean that you should let him walk away from your relationship. Instead, just work out the conflicting messages together so you can both decide what you’re going to do next.
2. He Doesn’t Ask You Out On A Date
He may be flirty with you and talk about a future together, but this is also when he starts to send mixed signals. Suddenly, he isn’t texting you back as frequently or won’t share personal details with you. This is a clear sign that he is only interested in you when it suits his needs.
He is scared of commitment and isn’t sure if he wants to be in a relationship. He’s also worried that his friends will spread rumors about him dating other women. If he really likes you, he should be making an effort to meet up in person and show that he cares about you. If he’s not, it’s best to move on before getting too invested in him. There are other guys out there who will give you the attention that you deserve.
3. He Makes Jokes About Dating You
When a guy starts making jokes about dating you, this is probably one of the most obvious mixed signals. He may even tell these jokes around his friends or other women, but he’s definitely trying to gauge your reaction to them. If you laugh, then he may be interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
But if you don’t laugh, then he may be treating you like an acquaintance rather than a girlfriend. This type of hot and cold behavior can be hard to deal with, but it’s important to determine the status of your relationship early on so that you can address it properly.
Moreover, it’s important to realize that sometimes mixed signals don’t always mean what they seem to. But they’re still worth addressing to avoid any potential problems down the road. If you’re unsure of what to do, seek advice from a professional who specializes in relationships. They can help you figure out what’s going on with your man and how to handle the situation.
4. He Introduces You To His Friends
Some guys feel like they need to introduce their crushes to their friends. It’s a way for them to see what their friends think of you and it can be a sign that they want to make things more official with you.
But he could also be trying to use this as a way to breadcrumb you, a strategy that occurs when someone wants a committed relationship but only appears invested when it’s convenient for them. This makes you feel undervalued and used.
If you find yourself deciphering a guy’s mixed signals every time they compliment you or send you flirty texts at 2am, it might be time to call it quits. You deserve to be treated with respect and you shouldn’t have to play games in order to get it. It’s not fair to you or to him. Learn to recognize the signs of this hot and cold behavior so you can avoid being a victim.
